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Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE).

Below are lists of helpful resources to accompany Uncommon Dreams. Please keep in mind that while their insights into helping women may be spot on, they may hold religious beliefs or affiliations that you or I may not agree with. At the same time, the good advice for women is priceless. Each has an important perspective for both those in need and those looking to help those in need.



Holy Bible

NIV version is excellent

Why Does He Do That?, Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

Lundy Bancroft

The Cry of Tamar, Violence Against Women and the Church's Response

Pamela Cooper-White

The Emotionally Abused Woman, Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself

Beverly Engel

The Verbally Abusive Relationship, How to Recognize It and How to Respond

Patricia Evans

Becoming a Church that Cares Well for the Abused

Brad Hambrick

Domestic Violence, Assault on a Woman’s Worth

June Hunt


Healing the Scars of Emotional Abuse

Gregory L. Jantz

No Visible Wounds, Identifying Nonphysical Abuse of Women by Their Men

Mary Susan Miller

The Heart of Domestic Abuse

Chis Moles This book is helpful in understanding how an abuser thinks.

When Home Hurts, A Guide for Responding Wisely to Domestic Abuse in Your Church

Jeremy Pierre and Greg Wilson

Beyond Desolate, Hope Versus Hate in the Rubble of Sexual Abuse

Tammy Schultz and Hanna Estabrook

Treating Trauma from Sexual Betrayal, Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself

Dr. Kevin Skinner

The Wounded Woman, Hope and Healing for Those Who Hurt

Dr. Steve Stephens and Pam Vredevet

Mending the Soul, Understanding and Healing Abuse

Steven R. Tracy

Emotionally Destructive Relationship

Leslie Vernick

The Emotionally Destructive Marriage

Leslie Vernick

How to Act Right When Your Spouse Acts Wrong

Leslie Vernick

Not to People Like Us, Hidden Abuse in Upscale Marriages

Susan Weitzman

Websites – Reducing Violence Against Women by Addressing the Hearts of Men – Chris is a compassionate counselor and pastor who works extensively with abusers. His website offers podcasts with survivor stories as well as a course for those who want to help abusers heal. – Leslie is an author and counselor with decades of experience in helping abused women.  The website is full of great advice, both written and in videos. She and Chris Moles often work together to train those in the church to better address the needs of the most vulnerable among us. 


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